“You can never control other people. You can only control yourself.” –Kimora Lee Simmons
Though many people do, I have never been one to want to control others. What has touched my life in a very significant way is, “you can only control yourself.” My life has been filled with obstacles of all kinds. Some not even patient enough to wait their turn. I am sure that many, if not all, can relate.
In any way that an obstacle should present itself, the way you confront it and handle it will determine the results and effects. "If only" type thinking will get no one nowhere. Forcing a resolve has the potential of coming right back and smacking you in the face, or creating a situation bigger than what you originally had to deal with.
Taking yourself into consideration: Do you like to be controlled? Do you like to be told what to do? Do you like to be told that you are wrong? Do you like to have someone impose a course of action on you? What is your reaction to someone's attempts to do so?
People are going to do what they do. They have their own reasons and backgrounds to why they make the decisions they make; just as you do. Maybe you can get someone to go along with it, but unless it is coming from a genuine place within themselves, you can be sure that they will eventually run off course. The best thing to do is to anticipate what it is and make the adjustments within yourself.
For example, consider you have a family member who is constantly negative and has the tendency of bringing your spirits down when you are around them. The best course of action would be to stay away, or bring the positivity yourself. The bottom line is: you have the control to how you are affected, as well as the possibility of influencing a change.
The type of situations this quote has helped me with most in my life, are situations where circumstance are the determining factor. One major situation very present to me every minute of every day, is my husband being in prison; he has been since 2009. Currently, it is up to God whether he gets out sooner than later. (The details are irrelevant at the moment.) Most of the time I am strong and I can handle the forced separation along with all that is included. But, there are times I want to force someone to let him out. It is so frustrating and infuriating when you do not have any type of control over a situation.
"I wanna scream. To cry until something moves. Moving the world off its axis. Changing the world and everything in it. God sees every tear? Are all mine in vain? Not all these chains are mentally placed... Only You know..." -07/04/14
Whenever you find yourself without any type of control over any type of situation, you DO have control over yourself. It may take some work; getting to know who you are to the core and what makes you tick. But it is all worth it when you are able to find peace in you, in your world. Many things we are not meant to control, but we are meant to control how we respond to it.
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